I know to an extent we know that no matter what form an abuse is, an abuse is an abuse and it is never going to end well with the person being abused.
So what is Emotional abuse?
Emotional abuse is a way to control another person by using emotions to criticize, embarrass, shame, blame or otherwise manipulate another person.
In general, a relationship is emotionally abusive when there is a consistent use of abusive words, bullying, or behavior that tears down a person’s self-worth, self-esteem and mental health.
So anything that makes you question your worth, Self-esteem, and that affects your mental health, Is an indication of emotional abuse.
Though it is mostly common amidst couples either married or still in courtship, but it can also occur in any relationship amidst friends, family members and co-workers.
Sometimes this form of abuse can be hard to even recognize because it is often subtle and manipulative. That is, you can be emotionally abused and not know it.
And you can be the one who is even emotionally abusing someone else and not be aware of it.
But whatever form it takes, one thing is certain about emotional abuse, it chips away your self-esteem and you can begin to doubt your worth, self-perception and reality
The main aim of emotional abuse is to have someone under our control, to isolate them, discredit them and if possible silence them
So at the end, one can get comfortable with being abused
Because you begin to feel trapped and unable to leave
You are wounded emotionally but you are also afraid to leave because of fear of abandonment and not finding someone else because most times, the abuser will make you feel you are the problem while they play the victim card
Then they configure you to think your life won’t amount to anything without them
So you also accept the reality and feel even if you leave
You can’t be good enough for someone else
So why not just endure the name calling
The abusive words
The unappreciative acts etc.
And even when you go out of your way to get things done
They still feel you haven’t done enough
And if care is not taking
It can ruin your perception yourself for life
After all no physical bruises right?
How do you know you are emotionally abused? ….. to be continued